- Vary your trajectory randomly
The enemy knows in general where you are, but he doesn't know where you're going to be. He is millions of km away. By the time his attack gets near enough to harm you, you've changed course to be well out of the blast zone. Aircraft did this in WW2 to avoid flak.
The enemy knows in general where you are, but not which of those bright dots is you. That could be enough to foil a few of his attacks.
- At a crucial moment, pump liquid hydrogen to the surface of the hull and shut your motor off.
This will only work until the liquid hydrogen boils off, but it should mask your heat signature for a short time. Combine it with a course change so that your enemy doesn't know where you went.
The disguised course change may be more effective if you do it at the same time as you launch decoys.
- Don't use your motor in the first place
Just enter the system in a passive ballistic orbit so the ship is cold and dark. The enemy doesn't need to see you until you shoot your weapons. Of course, there will be a defender's advantage since he can already have many ships in passive orbits in his solar system.
- When your motor is off and you're cold, use mirrors for camouflage against sunlight
Now that your motor is off and you're no longer a bright spark, you look just like any small asteroid. But your enemy may be able to spot asteroids by the reflected sunlight. Use an angled mirror to direct reflected sunlight away from the enemy.
- Ride on the far side of a comet into the system
Unless the enemy is in the habit of blasting every comet he sees, the ice of the comet and the gas/dust cloud surrounding the comet will help hide you.
- Have an implausibly energy-efficient motor
The law of "no stealth in space" is a result of your motor's waste heat radiating in all directions. If your motor was 100% efficient there would be no waste heat and you could not be spotted by your waste heat, even if you're running a terawatt power plant.
- Pass behind a planet, then while behind the planet perform a random, intense course change, then shut your motor off/use the liquid hydrogen and mirrors
If you only perform course changes while hidden behind large objects, and are in cold, ballistic coasting mode at other times, the enemy is going to have a hard time locating you.